Last week I sent a letter to all Raising The Barr Fitness clients asking them about where they were with the goals they set for 2012. One month has already passed in this New Year, so I wanted to refresh everyone of the path they set themselves on for 2012.
In the letter I shared my personal health and fitness goals for 2012, which just so happened to be the top priority goals for the business this year as well. If my energy gets drained, or my health takes a turn for the worse, then business slows down and suffers. That’s not me being egotistical, it’s just the reality of being in a leadership position.
One of the goals I spoke about was the goal of rebuilding and restoring relationships that I have let suffer over the course of my lifetime. More specifically for this letter I spoke about reconnecting with my father.
My dad agreed to come to Mississippi from Texas for the weekend to join me at a men’s coaching retreat. I was both very excited and admittedly scared. It may be difficult to see, but I have a hard time verbalizing my emotions and feelings for those I love. That’s why I enjoy writing so much…I’m protected by the screen on which I type these words.
So to sit with my dad around a fire with a group of men and talk about the way I feel about him and the desire I have to build a strong relationship with him was frightening.
As the weekend progressed I could tell that my dad was as equally scared to speak into his hearts desire for me, so early Saturday morning I stepped out of my comfort zone and made a deliberate and intentional step toward building the relationship that I want. I simply looked at my dad and told him that I was scared too. That I was grateful for him just being there. And that I loved him.
At that moment the barrier was torn down and my father and I began to grow closer. We embraced and the chains that held our family from truly expressing our feelings for one another were broken.
The rest of the weekend continued to bring healing and growth. I had a front row seat to see my father’s heart come alive again! It was, in one word…AMAZING!
I share this story with you today for two reasons: 1) God did an astounding work in my life this weekend, and 2) It directly shows YOU that when you make a goal and earnestly desire to achieve it, you can obtain that goal…whatever the goal may be.
You see… GOALS don’t magically get accomplished just because it is something you want. Granted, you first have to determine what it is you want…what it is you DESIRE.
That’s the first step.
But then you have to take ACTION.
You have to INTENTIONALLY and DELIBERATELY align your choices with your goals.
In the case with my father, I had to first invite him to come. It required me to follow up with him and even when he gave me the excuse of not being able to afford the travel I stepped in and paid for the trip. I was determined to build a loving, fruit bearing relationship with my dad. I had a COMMITMENT!
I also had to be in an ENVIRONMENT that was conducive to allowing this to happen. I didn’t invite him to a noisy bar for drinks to connect with him. I asked him to a men’s retreat where we sat in a circle around a fire with other men.
Much in the same way you wouldn’t spend all your time at a buffet if you were trying to eat healthier or lose body fat.
But there was something else I learned this weekend that brought it all together. I learned that I had to TRUST the PROCESS!
Nothing would have changed if I wasn’t willing to show up, take a risk, trust in a proven process, and listen to a coach that guided me through it all.
You want to lose weight?
TAKE ACTION.
Be INTENTIONAL and DELIBERATE with your choices so that they lead to the outcome YOU DESIRE.
Put yourself in an ENVIRONMENT to succeed. Surround yourself with like minded people that truly want to see you achieve what your heart desires.
TRUST THE PROCESS.
You have to SHOW UP!
And listen to your coach. If you don’t have one, get one. They have the knowledge to help GUIDE you through the process.
BUT….
…You have to do the work.
Take responsibility for your own goals and don’t let anyone keep you from reaching them.
When you do, God will show up just as He did with me and my father.
You are ultimately responsible for what you want, but you don’t have to do it alone.
In fact, you and I were never meant to…
I know what you’re thinking… “not another Tim Tebow article boasting, or bashing (depending on the author’s stance), about the Denver Bronco quarterback.






























































